Today, we hear from women who resent her assumptions ...
Shannon: Cathy thinks that being "good in bed" makes a woman less deserving of a rich husband or a nice house in the suburbs. I got my "rich husband" and my "nice house" because I was willing to communicate openly and honestly about all things, including sex.
Harper: Cathy is equating the "best" guys with the "wealthiest" ones, kind of a strange equivalency in my book. But I guess that's no surprise, given that she is judging women — not on their brains, their quickness, their conversational skills, their hostessing skills, their creativity or their earning potential — just on whether they slept with someone in high school.
The rich, successful guys she’s convinced are the most desirable have decided that there are more important things than whether their wife was a virgin when they met her.
Wallace: Cathy, when speaking of your son, you said: "It's my responsibility as his mother to send him out into the world as a man who respects women, rather than one who sees them as a sex object." Please explain how you intend to teach your son respect for women, when you call them skanks, Barbie dolls, arm candy, sleazy and slutty.
Kassie: Cathy thinks the only reason a woman chooses to have premarital sex is to be popular and that the guys who marry them only want arm candy. I chose to become sexually active in high school with my boyfriend because — gasp! — I wanted to have sex. I was responsible about birth control and protection against STDs. I had several partners before I met my husband. We technically had sex before we were even officially dating.
We’ve been happily married for 15 years. One of the qualities my husband wanted was a partner who enjoyed sex.
I find it highly insulting to equate consenting and honest sexuality with having no values.
Diana: Cathy is one of those idiots who thinks everyone should make the same choices she made, and if they don't, they're wrong or they're challenging her.
As for myself, I can’t imagine caring about what other women do with their vaginas – I mean morals. It has nothing to do with me.
When did you lose your virginity? Was it memorable? Do you regret it? Would you do it differently? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrappgmail.com.