In spite of its lofty goals, it’s easy to ridicule this app. It’s intended to help young adults avoid awkward conversations about sexual relations. When kids talk to me about why they didn’t use birth control or discuss sexual health before having sex, they say they felt too embarrassed to talk about such personal matters.
My response is simple: If you are too uncomfortable to have that conversation, then you shouldn’t have sex with that person.
Sexual assaults on college campuses are closely connected with the intoxicated state of one or both of the participants. This app will have no impact on those situations. I doubt that partners will call a time out from their amorous activities to interact with a phone app.
This approach seems pretty stupid to older individuals, but perhaps it may have some value. Young people, correctly and incorrectly, use technology to communicate. If this app helps young people keep themselves healthy and safe, then it’s helpful.
If you have a teen or young adult in your house, here’s your homework: Download this app on your phone, and ask your child their opinion about its use. This is your opportunity to listen and educate. Talk about the high rate of sexual assaults, sexually transmitted diseases, and what consent means. Understand your teen’s viewpoint about this app, and please please please don’t ridicule their responses.
Next Week: Here’s why Time Out isn’t working.